Developing self control
1) First you need to identify in what areas of your life you need to gain more self-control. Where do you find yourself lacking in self-control?
Possible areas could be:
2) Try identifying the emotions that lack control, such as anger, dissatisfaction, unhappiness, resentment, pleasure or fear.
3) Identify the thoughts and beliefs that push you to behave in uncontrolled manner.
4) Several times a day, especially when you need to display self control, repeat for a minute or two one of the following affirmations:I am fully in control of myself.I have the power to choose my emotions and thoughts.Self-control brings me inner strength and leads me to success.I am in control of my reactions.I am in charge of my behavior.I am gaining control of my emotions.I am the maser of my life.Day by day my ability to control my feelings and thoughts is increasing.Self-control is fun and pleasure.
5) Visualize yourself acting with self-control and self-restraint. Take one of the instances where you usually act with lack of control, and visualize that you are acting calmly and with self-mastery.
6) Your self control will improve considerably, if you work on developing and strengthening your willpower and self-discipline through appropriate exercises. This is actually the most important step for developing self control.
Self control is vital for controlling and overcoming obsessions, fears, addictions and any kind of unsuitable behavior. It puts you in control of your life, your behavior and your reactions. It improves your relationships, develops patience and tolerance and is an important tool for attaining success and happiness.
By developing and strengthening your willpower and self discipline, you develop and strengthen your self control.